May I take your picture?
Have you ever walked past a complete stranger and thought: “Wow I’d love to photograph that person, they look incredible”? How many times have you acted on that impulse? Asking a stranger to do something for us isn’t easy, even for the most confident person. We’re all afraid of being rejected or looking silly. What will other people think about us?
“You don’t ask, you don’t get.”
This was my dad’s favourite saying and the secret of getting what you want is A. Asking B. How you ask.
At a recent workshop I was running, I asked two of my students to approach a complete stranger and ask to take their portrait. One of the students came back with an amazing shot. The other with nothing. Why?
The difference was all in the asking. Here’s what they each said to the stranger:
Student A said: Ummmm. Hi, how are you? I’m really sorry to trouble you… ummmmmm… I know you’re really busy… ummmm…” *cough* *shuffles feet looks down at ground*. Then mumbles: “would it be ok… if… I… ummm… can I take your photo?”
Student B said: Hi, I think you look . . .