Image above: by Gina Milicia, Flower Farmer, Ubud, Bali
“What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.” — CONFUCIUS
When I was 7, I got my pen license. It was a piece of paper signed by my grade two teachers Mr. Kotter (names changed to protect the innocent).
My pen license was a big deal. It meant I had finally hit the big time. I’d made it to the next level, and I had the certificate to prove it. Finger paint, crayon, and printing were a distant memory. I was now in the high flying world of cursive writing. It was one of my earliest memories of being validated, and it felt good, but deep down I knew I was ready, so why did I crave Mr. Kotter’s approval so much? Why do we continually seek validation from others?
Does my bum look big in these jeans?
Was it good for you?
Do you like my new couch, profile picture or tv show I’m binge-watching?
Seeking validation from others is an addiction that can never . . .